Michael Flanagan
Mads T.
Larsen
Marissa
Ortiz
Cody
Fitelson
Within romantic relationships it is
necessary to have trust. Determining what and what not to reveal to a partner
early on is important. In long term relationships something’s need to be
revealed early on in order to be fair to the partner, however some things are
ok to keep a secret until later on. Within short term relationships not much is
important in the long run so most information can be kept secret but a few
things should be revealed beforehand.
When it
comes to long term relationships the group agrees that celibacy should be
revealed at the start. This idea relates back to religious views and cultural background.
This is because no one should invest
time in a relationship if they aren’t going to get all they expect out of it.
It is necessary at the start of a relationship to reveal you intentions of the
relationship and make sure that both parties are on the same page. Make sure
that both are equally invested and expect the same things from the
relationship.
We don’t believe it’s important to
reveal at the start of your relationship all or any of your past relationships.
We feel this way because this is not a factor that really impacts the
relationship in anyway. Sometime in the future, past relationships can be
revealed and discussed but not at the start. This gives both parties a chance
at starting a stable relationship.
In a short term relationship we don’t
feel it is important to reveal much of anything to the person your with, as
long as general safety is enforced and you’re having fun it doesn’t matter. It’s
important to reveal or discuss that both parties want the same thing from the
relationship. This avoids mixed signals for a longer relationship or leading
the other person on, when the other partner was only interested in a short time
relationship. Otherwise issues of religion, past partners, or other things aren’t
important.
In the end we feel that there are
certain things that should indefinitely be revealed in certain relationships.
It is common sense to be able to discuss the importance of anything in your
life but in other instances not everything has to be discussed, unless you want
to be serious with someone and both are on the same page.
Great point on how celibacy should be brought to the table within a long term relationship. Many people form relationships for many different relationships. You wouldn't want to lead someone on in a sexual manor with the intentions of being celibate, while they expect somethings. Disclosing this from the start will set the grounds.
ReplyDeleteI also agree that you don't need to discuss your past relationships. Your past is your past and your in the current relationship for a reason.
I thought you had a good point with revealing what the intent of the relationship is to make sure both parties are on the same page, making sure that when people do invest their time they know exactly what they are going to be getting out from it. I also agree with the idea that in a short term relationship not much has to be revealed as long as it's safe.
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