Romantic Involvements

Alexandra Spencer

Victoria Murphy

William Vasquez

Group #4

            Romantic involvements can be a complicated thing and deciding what should be disclosed, what does not need to be disclosed, and what needs to be disclosed under certain circumstances. Things that our group felt always needs to be disclosed when romantic involved with someone especially in a long term or serious relationship are things like STDs, past relationships, any prior engagements or marriages, if they have any kids. What are their basic beliefs as far as any religious background. Employment status if they have a job and what kind of job. Means of transportation do they have a car and a license, we would want to know why if they did not because it could mean they have had DUIs. Also a big thing would be if they have any of criminal records, would not want to date anyone that could be potentially dangerous. Both people’s expectations need to be disclosed, if they want a serious relationship or if they are just looking for something casual. Where this person is going in their life meaning with their job and if they are in college and working towards something or are just in a dead end job going nowhere. Expectations in both types of relationships either serious or not would there would need to be respect, responsibility, and monogamy and faithfulness towards the other partner. The male in our group felt that beliefs do not need to be disclosed and the two female did so this could be a borderline argument depending if you are male or female.

            As far as things that never need to be disclosed would be the amount of income a person generates. Another thing that would not be disclosed would be the sharing of a person’s private possessions like going through a person’s phone, computer, wallet or purse. A borderline argument would be going through a person’s phone because if they are being sneaky about their phone or computer that could mean they are being unfaithful. This argument also depends on if you are in a serious or short term relationship. If it was short term this might not matter as much but in a long term it can be very important to a relationship.

            Things that depend on the circumstances would depend if you are in a serious committed relationship or if it is something that is casual or short term. For short term or casual relationships we felt that not everything needs to be disclosed right away. Obvious things that do need to be disclosed right away are STDs, or other illnesses anything that could potentially harm the other person. We would want to know if the person has a job and what kind of job, as in are they in college and working towards something or do they just have a minimum wage paying job. Things that do not necessarily have to be disclosed in the short term would be past relationships, beliefs, and talking about the future things like marriage and kids might turn a person off.  Depending on the circumstances a person may want to know their social circles like what kind of people they hang out with because this could reflect on the person this could also be a borderline argument of something that may be very important and not as important to some people.